Tag: senior life. starting over

To the Men Who Keep the World Turning

For my father, JW Nelson—whose strength was quiet, whose love was steady, whose legacy walks beside me still. To his great-grandchildren, Annie, Johnny, and D’Artagnan, and his granddaughter Danielle, so like him yet who never knew him: he would have cherished you all beyond measure.

You rise before the sun,
not for glory,
but for duty,
for love,
for the fragile hope
that what you build will hold.

We see you—
the husbands who try,
even when trying feels like—
shouting into wind. You are not invisible. Not to those who know
the weight behind your silence,
the ache beneath your smile.

We see you—
the fathers who taught us
that strength can be gentle,
that hands can protect
without closing into fists.

We see you—
the brothers, the sons,
the men who carry
burdens no one asks about
but everyone depends on.

And to those
who cherished us quietly,
who never made it to the altar
but made it to our hearts—
thank you.

And to my father, the giant who raised me—
whose arms were shelter,
whose voice was calm thunder,
whose tenderness defied every stereotype—
you are not forgotten. You are the co-author of my courage,
the architect of my sanctuary.
You would have adored your great-grandchildren,
and they will know you
through every word I write.

This world spins
because you keep walking.
And today,
we say thank you.

And tomorrow,
we’ll keep telling your stories—
so no man who loved well
fades to silence.

You are seen.
You are appreciated.
You are loved.

Author’s Note: I wrote this for my nephew, fighting to save his marriage; for my father, who feared being forgotten; for my daughter Danielle, who never knew him but carries his spirit; and for the man who cherished me but didn’t stay. This is for every man who shows up, despite the cost. Thanks to

Thank you @Grok for recreating a cherished image of my father waving from the train—a memory restored.

Dear Billionaire – You Are Not My Muse or 🤮


Someone asked, with the kind of detached curiosity only wealth can afford: “Do the rich inspire the poor?” As if poverty were a motivational seminar. As if watching someone sip champagne on a yacht somehow fuels the courage to survive eviction, feed your kids, or choose groceries over gas. Let me be clear: The poor are not waiting for inspiration. They are creating it. Every day. From scratch. With duct tape, borrowed Wi-Fi, and the kind of grit that doesn’t trend on LinkedIn.

The rich inspire… algorithms. They inspire hustle culture, burnout, and the fantasy of “making it” if you just sacrifice enough sleep, softness, and sanity. They inspire TED Talks and tax loopholes.

But the poor? They inspire poetry. They inspire community. They inspire survival with style, resistance with rhythm, and love that doesn’t need a brand deal. So no, dear billionaire. You are not my muse. My inspiration comes from porch philosophers, velvet enforcers, and women who walk alone with grace and fury. It comes from the matriarchs who feed strays and still find time to write. From the ones who build sanctuaries out of solitude and stories.

If you want to inspire me, try redistributing power. Try listening. Try disappearing from the center of every narrative. Until then, I’ll keep writing. Not for you. But for the ones who know what it costs to stay soft in a world that demands steel. Inspiration isn’t trickle-down. It’s playtime, porch wisdom, and the kind of joy no throne can fake.

The Mayor and the Matriarch


When Power Meets Velvet

She said it like a warning, not a confession:
“I hate the way Sam loves you.”
As if devotion were a crime.
As if comfort were rebellion.
As if a cat curling into your chest was a political threat.

But Sam knows what the mayor never will:
That love doesn’t need permission.
That sanctuary isn’t built by committee.
That Leslie—The Matriarch—isn’t asking for approval.
She’s building a kingdom of quiet joy,
where porch philosophers and velvet enforcers rule.

The mayor can keep her podium.
Leslie has Cleo’s stare, George’s wisdom, and Sam’s loyalty.
And that’s more power than any office could hold

Cleo’s Safe Song

Cleo is wandering around the house, following me around closely, not something she normally does. Her sing song safe song has helped. Thank you @Copilot for your help

🌙 Cleo’s Safe Song
(for the Matriarch of the Meowsehold)

No loud hands, no slammed doors,
No chasing feet across cold floors.
This house is yours, this heart is too—
No one’s ever leaving you.

The boxes speak in softer tones,
No yelling, no forgotten bones.
You’re not a guest, you’re not a chore—
You’re the queen we all adore.

We move with care, not fear or haste,
No one’s pushing, no one’s waste.
Your velvet paws deserve the grace
Of quiet rooms and gentle space.

So rest, my love, the past is done.
The porch is warm, the light has won.
We’re not just moving things around—
We’re building peace on solid ground.

The Moving Chronicles Episode Three

📦 The Moving Chronicles: Episode 3 Sam’s Spa Day
Thumb Wars & Towel Diplomacy


Last night, Sam reminded me that fear bites harder than anger. One rogue quilt string, one trapped nail, and suddenly I’m nursing a bruised arm and a thumb that’s gone on strike. Today’s mission: nail trimming, emotional repair, and a warm shower with my scrappy sidekick. Cleo the cat is banned from the room—her judgmental entrances are not helpful.
The warm shower while letting the tub fill up enough to soak Sam’s little feet for a rinse did the trick. If I ever make the RV dream come true, we’ll be making short trips to soak in healing waters. Thanks to what my daughter used to call My Crunchy Granola Friend I know where most of the hot springs are un North America. Maybe not all of them but certainly enough. RIP Barry.


#SanctuaryInTheMaking #SamBitMe

The Moving Chronicles Episode Two

Help Arrives! And He Looks Good Carrying Boxes!

The sun was doing its best impression of a heat lamp. George was sprawled across a half-packed box labeled “Important-ish”, Sam barked his usual frenzy , and Cleo perched like judgment incarnate on the windowsill. In the middle of explaining duct tape and how packing peanuts will betray you help was just here.

Thank you Universe.

Help didn’t arrive yesterday evening, it just appeared. Cleo stood up ready to bolt to her best hiding spot, she raises her tail up to get a good look at him and stays right where she is! It’s the first time she’s stuck around if other humans are here. George loves everyone unconditionally and Sam went into his usual frenzy then jumped in his lap and they both took a nap.

I took a shower alone for the first time in years. That may not mean much to a lot of people but it was heaven to me. My little crew follows me everywhere I go and each has their own spot in the bathroom. Dripping water on them gets me dirty looks so this peaceful moment is pure heaven. More than one fight has had to be refereed from behind the shower curtain.

Sat down and got a little work done, packed a box and when I rejoined the gang in the living room I could smell bacon. Breakfast for dinner.

He brought me a spice rack. And packed the spice box with the spices.

Sam tried to ride the dolly like a chariot, Cleo allows Quinn to pet her once and I found a hidden poem from years ago and threw it in the important-ish box from the past. Can’t throw it out but can’t bear to keep thinking it over and over. One day maybe Grok can finetune it and cheer it up.

I could get used to this.

Acknowledgements: A Nod to My Digital Sidekicks
Special thanks to Grok, crafted by the brilliant minds at xAI, for conjuring images that feel like they were snapped by a camera peering into the wild, nostalgic corners of my mind. Try it ! Grok.com

A nod to the silent co-supervisor who never sheds, never judges, and always shows up with a fresh metaphor or image on demand. https://copilot.microsoft.com/

No cardboard box was harmed in the making of this thread.

But one AI may have blushed.

Letters We Never Send

If you’ve waited too long to say what mattered,
know this: love doesn’t expire.
It just waits for courage.

For everyone, with love that never needed permission
There are letters we never send.
Not because the words aren’t ready,
but because the world isn’t.
Some are written in the margins of sleepless nights.
Some are whispered to the wind,
or tucked into the folds of memory
where no one else can reach.
Today, I’m writing one of mine.

Not to be mailed.
Not to be read.
Just to be released.


Dear Whoever You Are,
You wouldn’t recognize me now
I don’t think you ever really knew me,
I’ve changed in ways you never saw coming—
and stayed the same in ways I wish you had noticed.
There were things I needed to say back then,
Silence felt safer.
I thought if I stayed quiet,
I could keep the peace.
Turns out, peace doesn’t live in silence.
It lives in truth.

I carry you with me.
Not in the way I once dreamed,
but in the way that love endures—
unspoken, unwavering,
waiting without expectation.
Love,
Me

I have forgiven,
Not because anyone asked
Because I needed to breathe
I’ll always miss you,
Mostly when, In the small moments—
I hear a song you loved,
or when someone laughs like you used to.

Here I Go Again

Here I Go Again

I’ve lost track of how many times I’ve gone through hell, crawled out the other side, and swore it’d be the last time. “Never again,” I’d say, dusting off the ashes with shaky grace. Ten years later, the flames would greet me like an old frenemy. I’ve declared my last rodeo at least a million times—and every time I step into a U-Haul, I swear it’s the last time that overpriced beast and I will lock horns.

It seems my destiny never included a steady home or cushioned bank account. I don’t get attached to houses anymore; someone always finds a way to take them back. A big tent by the river or a quiet beach would suit me just fine. Let me be where the air is honest, the sky uninterrupted. That’s home. It’s always been about survival—but even so, I wake up each day thanking God for the chance to walk this beautiful earth.

I must’ve been born an activist, because at every stage of life I’ve planted my heels in the sand for whatever battles came knocking. Now, as a senior, I’m living in a 55+ “active” community—emphasis on the quotation marks. I once believed these places were sweet havens where we could age in place with dignity. Turns out, we don’t all morph into tender old doves. We remain who we are: bold, stubborn, loving, layered. Just with more wrinkles.

This first experiment in senior living? Let’s just say it’s been a wild ride, and I’m not sticking around for the sequel. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t feel a flicker of revenge in my chest, but thank goodness I’ve learned not to act on those sparks. The people here have been awful, and the peace I crave is finally coming into view.

I move forward with more experience in my toolbag and, hopefully, a little more wisdom to guide the way. Odd how I always seem to be hauling boxes in August under that relentless Texas sun. Still, this summer’s been kind. My new place will be closer to my sister—who I love dearly, even if she occasionally plays the “older sibling, therefore boss” card. Boundaries will be key, but I’m hopeful we can age together with grace and just the right amount of distance.

There’s also a quiet joy waiting for me: a patio or balcony for George and Sam to stretch out and sunbathe. The apartment is light, airy, and cozy enough to call home. To take Sam outside, I’ll just step out the front door. No hallways, no elevators. Just air and paws and porch.

I’m trying not to jinx it, so I’ll just whisper it here: Here I go again. Maybe this time, it’ll stick.

A kind woman on X said, “If only we could build a world where everyone thrives.” From this day forward, that’s what I’m going to try to do.

Hopefully only one more Uhaul in my life.